Our minds are absolutely innately gendered. Women are much better at multitasking than men are, for one thing. Men are much better at focusing on one task at a time.
There's other differences too, but those are the most obvious differences. Sure there's a few outliers, but the vast majority of men and women are wired differently than the other sex.
Men will forget, but never forgive, women will forgive, but never forget, is another truism.
Edit: What on earth is being taught in schools and colleges these days?