Mental Health Awareness

I hope you get somewhere with it Karl. They usually refer you straight to Talking Therapies which is kind of the NHS mh partner (you don't even need a referral) but only a doc can grant you a sick note of course. First doc gave me a week, 2nd doc laughed and said that's nowhere near enough, have a month and come back and see where you are. Everyone's different but I hope you get what you need, even if you have to push a bit.
 
How does it work if you're signed off work for weeks or months but your employer doesn't pay sick pay? Plenty of PAYE jobs don't pay sick these days, or have a very limited number of days per year.
Does anyone have any experience of this in real life? I wonder if the usual policy is put aside for discretionary payments in these cases? Would causing financial hardship when signed off work for a serious illness would be potential grounds for an employment tribunal claim?
 
Geeeees.

@NotTheStig
@Sabre
@Blademonkey
@pjgh
@Gairdner
@karlc

and anyone else I missed.

Some of you guys deal with a hell of a lot.
I just want to say how grateful I am that you are all willing to talk about it. It puts my problems and 'down period' into perspective. ( Haven't been on here much because ive just lost the joy of shaving.... still do it coz i have to....) My wife and I were in tears the other night just because we thought that our 2.5 Yr old dog 'might' be going blind. That's what googling does to you. After a second visit to the vets he reassured us it was not going to be that serious but she did need some continued treatment.... possibly specialist care if it didn't clear up.

I fear I do that too much... immediately think of the worst case scenario. And then I let it spiral out of control in my head.

Thanks guys for continuing to share I really appreciate it.
 
CjH said:
I fear I do that too much... immediately think of the worst case scenario. And then I let it spiral out of control in my head.
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Yes, I do have a tendency to do this as well. I called it "spiral of doom" where you make one assumption after the other, each further from the start point and more of a stretch than the last, and end up feeling like the sky is falling in. Apparently it's a known thing and they call it catastrophising. You have to catch yourself and say to yourself that it may not be as you fear and if you can tell yourself you need more data you can stop the descent.

Sorry to hear about the dog, but I'm glad the vet was able to allay your worst fears and I hope things turn out OK.
 
CjH said:
Geeeees.

@NotTheStig
@Sabre
@Blademonkey
@pjgh
@Gairdner
@karlc

and anyone else I missed.

Some of you guys deal with a hell of a lot.
I just want to say how grateful I am that you are all willing to talk about it. It puts my problems and 'down period' into perspective. ( Haven't been on here much because ive just lost the joy of shaving.... still do it coz i have to....) My wife and I were in tears the other night just because we thought that our 2.5 Yr old dog 'might' be going blind. That's what googling does to you. After a second visit to the vets he reassured us it was not going to be that serious but she did need some continued treatment.... possibly specialist care if it didn't clear up.

I fear I do that too much... immediately think of the worst case scenario. And then I let it spiral out of control in my head.

Thanks guys for continuing to share I really appreciate it.
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I'm the same, a small problem all of a sudden can become a huge one as I think of the worst and as you have said it can quickly spiral right out of control and leave you feeling at your wits end.
For me this can lead to feelings of wanting to give up as I feel the problem is unsurmountable.
The cuts in the budget of the mental health services mean they are next to useless unless you are an immediate danger to yourself or others.
I hope you all have a peaceful holiday season and can find some comfort in knowing that you are not alone, there are many if us who feel the same at times, try to talk to a friend, a partner or indeed one of us fellows here, we are not judgemental because we have had these issues ourselves.
Stay safe all.

Paul.
 
Totally agree: of late, the slightest wee thing goes wrong and any good feeling I’d been lucky enough build up, buggers off in an instant and I’m left berating myself mentally. It’s as if I cannot break this cycle even though I’m acutely aware it’s happening. CBT quick fix therapy no worky. Be positive? Where can I purchase positive? Big River Grime? eBugger? T’interweb? Ye Olde Fashioned Shoppe? Ark, Ark, Ark, Arkwright’s?

Answers on a postcard please to:

Gairdner, TSR
 
To All on the forum and especially those of us who frequent this thread.....

May your 2024 be a brighter and more refreshing year.

There's no doubt I'll be back here in my time of low self-esteem, panic, depressed, crazy, frustrated, generally 'crap' moments. However, I know you guys will have some bolstering words advice or encouragement that will see me through to a happier day.

Thanks for your help in 2023.

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So I'm off from work due to stress / burnout, and I get a corporate email from my work organisation saying that due to budget cuts, redundancies in the future is a possibility (bad new for me as I'm on a temporary contract).

Suppose to be having time off to recover from stress, not have things added to it
 
I'm noticing across the forum that folks are getting exhausted. We're seeing it stated quite outright in this thread and symptomatically elsewhere, that the constant chase for new, new, better, lighter, more exotic is just exhausting. Is our hobby symptomatic of our malaise or could it, should it be our solace?

I'm noticing across the forum that folks are wanting to use that last year of abstinence, successful or otherwise, to step out into a year of not just tightening the belt but using what they have ... and perhaps enjoying the depth of that and savouring.

Contentment.

There's a lot of noise in modern life, by which I do mean actual noise ... but also just how vivid things are, especially opinions. It's all over the place and quite literally everybody seems to be shouting all of the time, rights, changing the goalposts and getting outraged by ... well, everything.

Can we be content with our lot ... maybe it is a lot, maybe it's not a lot, but in any case it's our lot.

Our hobby does go a long way to giving us an ongoing and dazzling distraction from daily life and gives us a protected time to get away, have a shave, have some quiet time, some personal time ... and then come here and talk about it. Can we let that be a catalyst for more? For that quiet to pervade deeper into our lives, our minds, our thoughts and emotions.
 
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