When I had kids I suddenly forgave my parents everything. When I was born mum was 20 and my dad was 24, they were kids themselves. Growing up I thought they were gods - knew everything, were always right, always strong and always good. But having my own kids made me see that they were just like me - younger, in fact, and poorer. They did their best and that's what matters.
I guess I went from them being my childhood idols to thinking them "rubbish" as a teenager to suddenly re-evaluating and appreciating them when I became a parent myself. Now, though, my dad can embarrass and annoy me in way that makes me uncomfortable - partly at his behaviour and partly at my reaction. Nothing major I guess I just want him to be more paterfamilias, more gravitas, more decorum. Sometimes he like a kid, and not in a good way. But maybe better that than cold and distant.
Also, I know he's there for me, unconditionally. He's very good like that. No judgement, no hesitation, he'd drop everything and help in any way he could.
So all in all I've got nothing to complain about really. Top parents, top brothers, top wife, top kids.
A part of me doesn't really want to go and stay with my parents over new year but it's only 48hrs and the kids'll love it. Ideas of duty, honour and respect means I'll swallow my own agenda and go. And anyway, you never know how long you or others have got left, nor when you might see them again. Make the most of it and all that.