Mental Health Awareness

Sabre said:
I have another meeting on the 30th. I offered to take a payout or to accept a really juicy carrot to go. So back to gardening leave. I should have learnt to ski instead I am watching movies...
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Sorry to hear that. Fair play to you trying to do the best in the circumstances.
Good luck with it all
 
Dealing with lifelong C-PTSD ... well, actually now understanding it whereas life to date has been coping with and developing personal survival strategies which I now consider a handful of personal super-powers. C-PTSD does develop and manifest as actual DSM-5 neuro-developmental disorders similar to many well-known neuro-divergent disorders. Now that I have come to a place where I am starting to understand and finally (finally, actually it's for the first time) landing on professionals who can actually help ... it's absolutely exhausting.

My therapy (if that's the right word) is borne out of personal trial and error - light exercise, one or two engrossing hobbies, one meaningful human relationship and lots of cats. I try not to overthink it ... and embrace the direction it takes me while actively guarding against its excesses (he says, "with that much shaving soap"). To mitigate against being consumed, I try to do very little that isn't truly meaningful to me, my partner and my cats; that gives me at least some strength to do my job well, which I have to keep very tight control over time and effort ... and have some reserve to give out positively to other people around me.
 
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Sabre said:
I have been made redundant. I have lost virtually all motivation. I can sleep for 15 hours, and a lack of exercise has made my diabetic neuropathy very severe. My fun buddy is here this weekend. Hopefully this can help me turn around.
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While myself, I find that "going with it" can be helpful (if you sleep 15 hours, then sleep 15 hours) but with my own life, I do have to guard against letting that take over. On a practical level, just going outside for a bimble about can do wonders. How about use the weekend and company to go to the nearest coast, have a walk, whatever the weather, whatever you can manage, otherwise sit maybe ... and just breathe.

Take care.
 
Great stuff @pjgh. I agree with everything you say… except maybe the cats (YMMV). Never underestimate the power of a bit of fresh air. It’s not physically easy for me to go for a walking, but I find that the less I want to go out, the more I need it.

Best wishes to everyone here.
 
I'm not being at all flippant there ...

We're pretty simple beings and I think the vast majority of what ails us is complication and that is compounded by what we eat and drink, our activity and more. We seem to turn everything into a chore - not active enough, go nuts and join a gym and stress yourself silly; eat the wrong things and find yourself on some bonkers diet that gives you no pleasure and is hard to stick to. Nah!

I'm not preaching either because I get it wrong a lot and let it slip.

I've got a day off work today and wasted it so far playing computer games. I'm going to walk into town and get a Doner Kebab, something I love and have not had for ages. Mrs is engrossed in something or other ... why the hell not?
 
Sabre said:
I have been made redundant. I have lost virtually all motivation. I can sleep for 15 hours, and a lack of exercise has made my diabetic neuropathy very severe. My fun buddy is here this weekend. Hopefully this can help me turn around.
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Sorry to hear this chap. It's a weird one, having no free time at all can be brutal, but then having too much can be just as problematic but in a different way. I hope you enjoy the weekend with your buddy.

Sabre said:
Hotmetal and Gairdner have both dropped off.
I hope they are fit and healthy, physically or mentally.
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I sent Gairdner a PM recently, I will send hotmetal one too. Cheers.

pjgh said:
Dealing with lifelong C-PTSD ... well, actually now understanding it whereas life to date has been coping with and developing personal survival strategies which I now consider a handful of personal super-powers. C-PTSD does develop and manifest as actual DSM-5 neuro-developmental disorders similar to many well-known neuro-divergent disorders. Now that I have come to a place where I am starting to understand and finally (finally, actually it's for the first time) landing on professionals who can actually help ... it's absolutely exhausting.

My therapy (if that's the right word) is borne out of personal trial and error - light exercise, one or two engrossing hobbies, one meaningful human relationship and lots of cats. I try not to overthink it ... and embrace the direction it takes me while actively guarding against its excesses (he says, "with that much shaving soap"). To mitigate against being consumed, I try to do very little that isn't truly meaningful to me, my partner and my cats; that gives me at least some strength to do my job well, which I have to keep very tight control over time and effort ... and have some reserve to give out positively to other people around me.
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Great post Paul. I read a book about C-PTSD, less to pick out my mind but to try to comprehend a few close to me and some of the things you mentioned I agree with, I saw it in effect up and close, but that's another story. All the best for coming to a place to work things out for yourself.

pjgh said:
I've got a day off work today and wasted it so far playing computer games. I'm going to walk into town and get a Doner Kebab, something I love and have not had for ages.
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I hope you enjoy your doner kebab. On that note, I need to buy toilet paper tomorrow.
 
Hi guys. Yeah cheers people, I'm still here, but stretched very thin, no free time to myself any more as I'm working full time and looking after my mum, so I'm a bit ragged to say the least! Cheers for asking, shout out to Shubs for PMing me. Love you guys. And yes, I'm still BBS (almost) every day, as a way of preserving sanity.
 
So I have been made redundant in mid February.
I informed my landlord, although I haven't qualified for any benefits. Today they gave me two months notice. I am not in a position to get anywhere else at this time. Hopefully, I get a job soon. My heart is racing.
 
Sabre said:
Hopefully, I get a job soon. My heart is racing.
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All the best ... and I truly hope it's a job that you will find fulfilling.

Hopefully keeping the right side of political discussion, it really makes my piss boil that having dutifully paid into a national insurance you find yourself ineligible for assistance. I am going to have to leave that at that. Hopefully your redundancy will suffice for the short term.
 
Sabre said:
So I have been made redundant in mid February.
I informed my landlord, although I haven't qualified for any benefits. Today they gave me two months notice. I am not in a position to get anywhere else at this time. Hopefully, I get a job soon. My heart is racing.
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Two months notice, sorry to hear. They can't get you out without a court order mate. Speak to housing dept in council, who will tell you the same thing. Don't go until bailiffs and even then that could take a long time. Some landlords will offer money to leave.
Make sure you have a valid gas safety certificate, and A copy of the current Electrical Installation Condition Report. They can't evict without these. Don't tell him this though.
 
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