I do three passes plus touch ups: with the grain, then across. Last pass is across the grain at a different angle around my mouth and against on my cheeks and sometimes on my neck. Touch up is mostly under my chin.
1x WTG short strokes
1x WTG longer strokes
1x XTG short strokes
Blade buffing.
I too have to shave every day, sensitive skin & tough beard. I can go ATG sometimes, never on my neck, ingrowings are horrendous afterwards no matter what.