Yer logic is skewed. If you do not TRY then you CANNOT succeed. No effort equals no positive result.For me, the problem is in the title of the post. "I (am) going to TRY giving up smoking... Again".
The key word here is TRY. If you're only TRYING to give up you've already given yourself a reason, or justification, to not quit.
Does the following conversation sound familiar...?
"I see you're smoking again. I thought you were giving up."
"Yeah. Well, I'm trying." #takes another puff#
By only TRYING you've already failed.
My point is; tell yourself you ARE going to quit.Yer logic is skewed. If you do not TRY then you CANNOT succeed. No effort equals no positive result.
Well,after 30 years of smoking,I have decided to try and give up (failed very miserably in the past).
I finally bit the bullet,and spent £35 or so on an 'E ciggy' dongle,and some Golden Virginia taste alike stuff for it...
This should hopefully arrive next week...
http://www.jacvapour.com/basic-e-cigarette-starter-kit-for-beginners
All in stainless steel too.
Anyone else used one of these 'E ciggy' dongles?,did it help?,or failing that,how did you give up?.
Wish me luck...I certainly need it!.
theymademedoit said:My point is; tell yourself you ARE going to quit.
Well that's certainly an interesting insight and congrats on the sobriety.Oh do not mistake me sir, I understand that logic. It has been preached to me by dozens of middle and lower level management bankers. Certain minds however fail to respond to this and mine, alas, is one. It's called setting the bar too high or more accurately, setting yourself up to fail. Pushing oneself towards a difficult goal is a challenge that some thrive on and setting an impossibly high bar can help those types of people reach higher than they ever imagined in their wildest dreams. For others, it simply crushes them and they perform much less well than without the pressure or so called challenge. For some, the more pressure the higher they fly when the valve is released, for others, broken pieces of imploded wreckage are all that is left. I would love to be the former but I'm not.
Lessen a challenge to make it achievable with a bit of work but still well within reach and the reward of satisfaction yields a small, perhaps even tiny step forward. But it is a start. That first hour or that first break in routine may lead to making it to lunchtime. More routines broken or other habits changed and all of a sudden you may find you have your first day smoke free under your belt. Worry not about the day to come but focus on the day your are in. Sometimes the belief just isn't there but strength of will can be forged along the way when a decision has been made and you surprise yourself with early successes. That first day you never thought you'd manage becomes a second day and then you've 48 hrs behind you that probably felt like 168. On day three, you may just be telling yourself, "Shit, I just might be able to do this."
Don't get ahead of yourself and don't set yourself up to fail by heaping pressure on yourself or being unrealistic. I admitted I had a problem with alcohol at 23 and told myself I would quit and nothing under the sun would make me start again and I laughed up my sleeve at all those falling off the wagon after a few days or weeks or months of sobriety at AA meetings whilst I stayed dry. Little did I know that they were learning by their mistakes whereas my pride and self-imposed pressure was setting me up for a fall. A year and half later, one particular day, wallop! Fuckin' blootered with subsequent three day, near-hospitilsation hangover. The pressure told and I caved. Took me six years of this sort of shite before the penny dropped and I stopped telling myself that from now on I would stay sober definitely forever but that I would try, each day, one day at a time to stay sober for that day and that day only. So far so good - s'been a wee while since the wee small hours of the 23rd August 2003.....
Your way will work for some but it ain't gospel. Just sayin'....
Well....The E-Ciggy arrived!,so far I have made 4 hours without a real Rollie,which for me is a sort of a little record!,
These E-cigs,are much better than I expected,even with medium nicotine (12mg) carts,I dont feel the need to roll one up!.
Mrs DT is giving up again too,but she prefers the 'cold turkey' method,she stopped instantly when she fell pregnant with child 2,so I think she can do it again.
Now just had to get rid of the ashtrays (I only ever smoked at the kitchen door,and outhouse),the hardest part,is putting my trusty Zippo in the draw,with the last of my baccy,and Rizlas....
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