Although it sounds counter intuitive the weight of a properly made razor will actually help you control it and apply less pressure. Don't forget an XTG pass can be made in one of two directions so if one direction isn't effective try the other or perhaps introduce both XTG strokes on your difficult areas only. Having said that don't fret about the odd stray hair atm, it might irritate you but it really isn't worth chasing it and causing irritation.
If your skin is irritated you're still over-shaving that area and NEVER shave skin that isn't lathered, you're not scraping paint and efficiency is the key so aim to remove lather with a minimum of strokes and fuss. Make sure you pay extra attention with your brush particularly on those difficult areas so you hydrate and lift the hair adequately. Get some witch hazel preferably Thayers, the best post shave available by far imo, I still think Mantic59 produced the best video tutorials I've seen so study those with care.
https://sharpologist.com/shaving-videos
Thanks for your advice. I watched the Mantic vids right through and they were very helpful, especially the lathering one. The tip about squeezing remaining lather up from the base to tips of the brush was fantastic. Got loads of really rich lather because of this. Still adjusting to synthetic brush and been feeling that I wasn't getting as much lather in the bowl as I should despite getting a healthy dollop of cream at the start, so this tip has really helped me. Also his tip about once you have used the brush to get the lather on your face & lift the hairs, then brushing it from side to side to even it out. Today's shave was by the far the best lather I've ever had so far! Today I also tried his method of shaving out sideways under the nose which worked great for me, and also tried the technique of making the first pass straight down (even if this is not necessarily WTG), followed by 2 XTG passes, one in each direction. With the irritation I get, there is no way I am going ATG afterwards though!
Regarding stray hairs, I am still trying to undo bad habits I'd got into, such as the massive temptation to get every single one, whether by extra lather pickups or plucking them out with tweezers. I need to discipline myself to leave the stray hairs and walk away! Twice in the space of a few days, I stupidly spent ages in front of the magnified mirror trying to remove ingrowers. I am getting virtually none since stopping using carts which is the good thing, and these weren't even that bad really, I just HAD to get them out, but ended up making a right mess. Each time a messy area like this eventually heals, I seem to get another, its so frustrating. I never imagined I'd do this, but I've even caught myself chatting to guys I know and being insanely jealous of their well shaven, seemingly irritation free faces!
On the razor's weight helping to control pressure, I will probably end up before long ordering something like an EJ DE89. I have been trying to resist and give myself a good month of using the current WS Classic DE razor so as to not change too much just yet. But I am not sure how much longer I can hold out and may be writing to Santa soon once I have chosen from the multitude of handles available! What do the combs on razor heads actually do anyway? All I really know is that a closed comb is better for a beginner than an open one. But the Classic DE head is flat, so different again.
You talk of 'removing lather with minimum strokes and fuss', I guess the EJ DE89 will be better at this than my current one? Is that a good upgrade do you think, ie efficient without being too aggressive? Perhaps mine is TOO mild thus me feeling I need more passes & pickups (& pluck-ups!) ?
Re: Witch Hazel, I do see this mentioned a lot, I guess with sensitive skin I need it as Toner, not Astringent. Where is it best to get Thayers from?
Thanks